Every human being leaves a wake of their experience onto the world around them. Those who are conscious of this and their own effect will manually attempt to soothe any negativity they may cause in others.
Conscious people either apologize for being irritable, or they give the person for whom they have been wrong, a way to forgive them. But there are many, many people in the world, who are self-obsessed, instead of self-aware.
These are the ones who can leave a stain on your day, or entire week in some cases. (For those who stain a large part of your childhood memories, this post is not about them. It’s just describing the kind of people who effect the surface of your experience, not the course of it.)
Your day is filled with many activities that can easily be sidetracked by emotion. If you experience the emotion of others in a negative way, it can cause your day to go horribly astray because every feeling you have about yourself gets stained by a superficial experience someone has created in you.
The emotional effect people have on you is created by the emotional wake they trail behind. It can rock your boat if you’re not properly moored.
This experience can result in not only disregarding your self worth, but also your sense of justice. When you allow someone to have that kind of effect on you, it’s usually because you haven’t found a sense of truth in it, and are therefor considering the untruth as a statement about you, rather than a statement about them.
You may feel as if your agony is against them and not yourself, but if that were true there would be no need to dwell upon the situation, because you would shrug your shoulders and say, “who peed in your coffee this morning?” Rather than having their emotional behavior actually dislodge your feeling good about the day.
These are usually people who have a way of being that is dark and foreboding, or deeply disturbed. They are not well for one reason or another. Some are unwell for emotional reasons of their own, others are unwell because their sense of security comes from causing illness wherever they go. This is because they have an opinion about the ways of the world, and they work hard to uphold that opinion in order to maintain that sense of security.
For example if someone is rude to you in a way that makes you feel picked on, the way you respond is how the other person sees the world. You reflect the way the world is to them, when you do what is expected from a result of their behavior. It’s not until you actually do or say something they aren’t expecting that you effect not only their day, but yours as well.
You cannot deal with the emotions of others upon you until you deal with the emotions they are having about you. This means change how you respond and respond only in kindness. Make this about them intend of being about you and you’ll see they are not the monster they appear to be; they are instead a person in need of compassion. You can only do that which you are comfortable doing, but make sure your comfort lies in the knowing of your own perfection.
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