“LISTEN TO YOUR THOUGHTS SERIES”
Be what you are designing (action),
Instead of what you wish (no action)”
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- Make the conscious decision to listen to your thoughts
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Listen to how often you beat yourself up
- Listen to how often you betray yourself
- Listen to how often you forget to love
- Listen to the judgments you make
- Listen to what you think you’re not good at
- Listen to how you mock those who try to be their best
- Listen to those you want to be like, and see what it is they are doing that you already do
- Listen to the way people are talking to you in your mind
- Listen to why you always use your frustration to end your state of calm
Where in the world do you live when you live in your thoughts?
There is no end to where your mind can go when you learn to bring your mind to your heart. The heart’s mind is the window into God and into the existence of the entire space/time continuum.
If this is so, where are you living when your thoughts are telling you that you are stupid, ridiculous, strange, or without belonging? You are dwelling within the brain.
The brain cannot compute the nature of self-love. It has no concept of self.
Self comes from a precious worthiness. And that worthiness is a creation of God within you.
Whether you believe in God or not does not matter in this case, because you can have a sense of precious self even without a concept of the one who made you. You simply have to align to the knowing that you were made for a reason and this reason is “Self” made. Which is why your thoughts can make you into something you are not.
This is what we call “beating yourself up,” when you are making yourself into an unworthy state.
Because you are a worthy being, anytime you have made yourself unworthy, you are turning yourself into something you are not. That requires a beating down of what is.
THOUGHTS THAT BEAT YOU UP – AND WHY THEY BEAT:
“What did I do that for?”
As if you are stupid or unworthy for having done something.
“What is the reason I’m not good at _____?”
As if looking for the unworthiness in you that makes this so.
“What is the reason I don’t love enough?”
As if something you feel about another is a reflection of what you are not, rather than your own need to feel what you think you cannot give.
“What do I have to do to be worthy of _____’s attention?”
As if you aren’t already worthy, but have to be something that you are not.
“What is the reason I have to be treated with unkindness from _____?”
As if you did something or are something unworthy of another’s goodness.
“Where do I have to be in life before I can be happy?”
As if being happy is related to something you are not.
“When I have done/achieved ______, I will be happy.”
As if being happy is the result of something you must do.
When you think you are or must be something other than what you are, to be worthy of happiness or kindness, then you are beating yourself up for what you are not right this minute.
When you open yourself to the unkindness of another as if you are the reason for their unkindness, you are beating yourself up for being someone they cannot be kind to.
When you think that your unkindness to another is because you are not kind enough, or cannot love enough, you are beating yourself up for forgetting who you are, instead of listening to your errors as an opportunity to know yourself better.
THOUGHT RECONSTRUCTION:
“I know I have done something to make this person feel badly, and I’m sorry. I don’t want to be that kind of person, I will do better when I see them next.”
“I know I have things to learn yet to achieve the goals I have set for myself. And I am getting better everyday as I learn more and more.”
“I believe there are times in my heart when I feel unworthy, and when I feel that way I know I often speak to others as if they have wounded me. But I know I can find what my wounds are, when I do behave that way, so maybe if I study the wound, I can free it from my behavior.
“When I look at my wounds, and show sensitivity to them, I can forewarn the person who injures me with their behavior. I can tell them I am sensitive about the way they behave. Maybe they’ll not behave that way next time, but I won’t depend on it, in order that I may learn to avoid them or avoid being sensitive to the way they behave.”
The way these thoughts are reconstructed is that you remain responsible for what happens to your feelings. At the same time you are not blaming yourself for the entirety of the infraction upon the self. You are simply telling yourself that you don’t wish to feel a certain way. And the “reasons” for the way you feel don’t matter.
The reasons for why you are wounded don’t matter, because you can change the way you see yourself, rather than trying to dig into some past of unworthiness in order to find a way to blame yourself for what you are not yet.
Being true to what you are means loving where you are as you are. Not trying too hard to fix what happened but instead forgive yourself for what you didn’t see the first time.
Forgiving yourself for what you are not yet is the easiest way to soothe the ache of a beat up self.
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