“LISTEN TO YOUR THOUGHTS SERIES”
Be what you are designing (action),
Instead of what you wish (no action)”
The links take you to my blog posts on the title topics
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Make the conscious decision to listen to your thoughts
- Listen to how often you beat yourself up
- Listen to how often you betray yourself
- Listen to how often you forget to love
- Listen to the judgments you make
- Listen to what you think you’re not good at
- Listen to how you mock those who try to be their best
- Listen to those you want to be like, and see what it is they are doing that you already do
- Listen to the way people are talking to you in your mind
- Listen to why you always use your frustration to end your state of calm
Listen to what your thoughts are saying…
- What is the context of the thought?
- What triggered it?
- Work your way forward to change it.
EXAMPLE THOUGHT:
“I’m not fast enough to do everything before the deadline.”
This thought was triggered by…
“I am my word. What will people think of me if I don’t get it done when I said I would? When I was a kid, they said I was lazy… I just daydreamed a lot. My imagination would take me out of focus.”
The thought, “I’m not fast enough…” projects into an unknown future. It assumes this future will come before being ready. This future does not consider what one can do when one focuses. Nor what one can do when hooked into Source and the praying mind.
The thought is incorrect and in the way of a self-doubting un-empowered mind.
THOUGHT RECONSTRUCTION:
- Letting go of the future:
“Maybe I’m not aware of something that could help me get this done faster.” - Letting go of being alone:
“Maybe there’s someone who knows a better way to complete this?” - Letting go of governance:
“I think Source/God/The Great Spirit/Universal Intelligence may want to help.” - Letting go of fear:
“I don’t have to prove anything to anyone, I’m just going to prove to myself what I’m capable of.” - Letting go of silent agony:
“Maybe my body is too stressed-out and needs a rest/workout/nutrition.” - Letting go of giving others your promise too late:
“I’m sure I can ask for more time if it’s necessary, but I won’t unless it truly is. And what do I need to prove to them anyway? Won’t they love me no matter what? But if my pride is in the way, maybe I just say I can’t do it, and leave it at that. Maybe I’ll stop making promises I can’t keep. Maybe I’ll just try, and see what happens.”
Reconstructing a thought means let go of the emotional attachment. Don’t allow the thought take you down a path of self abuse. Let it instead take you down an empowered path. Get to every angle of the thought until it feels better than the feeling of not being enough.
Listen-in to your thoughts. And you’ll be entered into a drawing for a free reading, when you comment below…
Happy New Year – Happy New You
DON’T FORGET TO COMMENT ABOUT YOUR THINKING ON THOUGHTS! Winners will be drawn at the end of January.
The timing on this was perfect. What a great tool to not only catch yourself in the negative habits but also to turn them around. The reconstruction of the thought is something I haven’t tried but seems like the perfect time to. I can’t thank you enough.
Knowing you are listening, Jose, is enough. It means you are ready for your own processes to keep you climbing a ladder of self-worth.
One thing that causes that Elona, is that the brain is trying to make sense of something that will never make sense. So if you are listening to your mind’s mind, the higher mind, over the brain prattle, you’ll be more likely to let go of something that is harming your sense of peace. 🙂
Thank you yet again . . . humility
you’re so welcome, always, Siobhan
I appreciate all you do for others.
Love to You, Joyce
Thank you, Joyce, so kind to say.
Excellent girl friend!!! How did you and God know? hahahaha. Dropping the ‘self beating up’ is my new years resolution!!!
love you lots, Jenni
well it was a nudge from the almighty really, I didn’t know nuthin!
Thank you Sondra!! This is so helpful!!Happy New Year!! Jan xo
You are wonderful! Love, Frances
Hi Sondra,
Yes, I do agree to giving them time to sink in. Just one, like the first, “Let go of the future”, and third, “Let go of governance” would be enough to work on for a very long time.
It’s like medicine, you just keep taking it until one day you don’t have to.
I do think “Beating yourself up” is worthy of it’s own email…unfortunately.
Lovely things to contemplate and change for the New Year!! I will definitely be doing my part.
WISHING YOU AND DEE A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
I can’t wait for the “beating yourself up” letter… !
I love the Thought Reconstruction. What an empowering way to reframe negative thought patterns into positive outcomes! I will put this into practice (action)!
I’m also looking forward to receiving the “Beating Yourself Up…” email.
Thank you so much for sharing this information with me!!
you’re so welcome, Debra… I also love that thought – reconstruction – given we are so prone to tearing ourselves down.
Wow — letting go of the emotional attachment to thoughts… that is powerful. And ever so timely — thank you! Much to work on here… thank you for allowing me to now see this all in such a new light — much to work on. (Something tells me I’m glad for the extra time to do so, too…. again thank you! ;D)
There’s always time to make yourself a perfect being, and at every stage you are in perfection, the rest is all about refinement. 😉
Thanks for your exercise on the thought process that is not beneficial. I look forward to your future ones especially if they have details on how and what creates strong empowering thoughts! Thank you~
Hi JMM! “What creates strong empowering thoughts” that’s a good segue to the next one on beating yourself up… 😉
Dear Sondra, You are sooooo right. Being positive about EVERYTHING and acting positively to achieve desires is the ultimate accomplishment. Since I learned how to listen to myself (Higher) for guidance my life is like a successful journey full of achievements and health, wealth and happiness. Hope the same for you now and always, There’s still work I have to do, so please keep on helping us achieve our perfected self. Love always from Marilou McIntyre
Hey Marilou! I think you bring up a good thought regarding “positive” and “negative” thoughts. There’s some truth that keeping the head full of positivity is a good way to be, but not all disempowering thoughts are negative. Sometimes they are just defeating in their positivity. Like this…
“I’m really beat, it’s been a long day.” — there’s nothing wrong or negative about that. It’s a statement that is true in the moment that it’s felt. But you can change the thought and change the moment.
“Wow, my body would love a bath, I can’t wait to get into the bathtub. That’s going to feel sooooo good!” You’ve changed a thought that could cause you to be down, as a domino effect, into one that is excited and ready for soothing. Then when the soothing is over, the joy of going straight to bed will give a feeling of a day well spent.
Love to all! Sondra
What an inspiring series of topics to a to us to get cough the new year! Thanks so much for sharing these insights with us from Spirit!
Our inner voice creates so many false barriers and doubt. We are often our biggest critic and worst enemy. And so these words a important reminders that there is a different and better way, if we consciously think about what is being said in the inner talk, and then discard that which is not correct or serving us. The thought reconstruction above provides us with a model to reframe what the inner voices is suggesting to us. Thank you Sondra.
Hi David! “false barriers” I love that idea. That has so much hope for people if they can see them. Good words!
Hi Sondra,
Thank you for boiling down self-growth and real happiness into its essence. Just being aware in the present moment of how our thoughts are continually taking us away from the now is a marvelous start to a life of freedom, growth, and joy.
Laura
People often stay out of the now because of these thoughts, but they often stay out of the now because there’s not enough talk about the now, in the now. So right now I’m responding to your comment, but I’m trying to get it over with as soon as possible because I have so much to do. This response however is demanding that I focus on exactly what I want to tell you.
In this moment, that I give this reply, I can feel the joy of it when I let go of what’s going on outside of this moment, and give to this moment the joy of responding to your comment. It is the life of a monk God asks of us, to live the monk’s life in the midst of the chaos of making a life on earth.
This is very timely and wonderful post for the New Year. I can completely relate to the judgement that goes on and how it drives everthing both good and bad. It is the never ending critic and perfectionist that lives inside that will seek to undermine the very real and positive progress being made on a daily basis. By seeking y o still that inner critic and remove its source of power, the need for outer approval and aduldation/praise by something outside of yourself, you take your own power and internal knowing away.
I very much agree that giving it a “rest” sometimes is the best approach. When I overwhelmed by fear or it feels that I am not doing or being enough, I know that it is time to take a step back and go inwards and ask for whom am I doing or being this for. If it is not from an internal knowing or honoring, then I know that I am not respecting myself and needs and wants and it is time to stop and ask myself what do I need from this?
This is very profound but soo very difficult the art of undoing versus unconscious doing from a place of external ego or demands. It is very different to act consciously and whole heartedly versus from need and greed.
The body immediately stills and finds it nner peace and from this place one can accomplish all without striving and needing to. It is a beautiful outward expression of the inward knowing that is effortless, graceful, and all knowing.
May the New Year be bright, living, abundant and blessed.
Love and light,
Archana
Beautiful reminders Sondra. We can’t hear them enough. Thanks for continuing to keep them in front of us this powerful season of beginnings. Much love to you.
Excellent food for thought especially to start the new year off right. You’ve really hit the nail on the head. We all have that little inner voice that we listen to daily. So much healthier to train that “voice” to be kinder, wiser, and more productive. Wonderful cooments. Can’t wait for the next article!
In the light,
Michelle Bacon
I’m sorry so many have had a problem commenting here, thank you for so many awesome emails. I’ll put those comments up later and I look looooove how many of you are actually doing the exercise. This is important stuff to develop your most self. Xoxox
The words “listen in” struck a cord in me.
As if I know better than to have these thoughts of myself. Those 2 words made it easier for me to recognize the thoughts that hold me back.
Love,
Cheryl
thanks a lot, great advice!
This is great (do I expect anything other than great here? Ha! No!). I love how lovingly they suggest a letting go of a deeper thought of the past, which will automatically seed the more positive (and true) present. Hadn’t really seen it in that light before.
Hi, It’s amazing. When I first read this I ignored it. Then I started reading again. Boy my thoughts got really LOUD…then I said to myself. I listen to my thoughts all the time! I want them quiet. I had already said this exercise is to hard for me I won’t get it; classic set up for epic fail. So, my God self said turn it into a homework assignment…My thoughts got quiet lol
I now know the context and trigger starts from what was told to me as a child. I try off and on to change there direction. Listening to my thoughts to hear what they are really saying scary and tough.
I am so excited that my Angels, Spirit Guides and Teachers are aligned with you Sondra. God likes to play with us! Today I spent the day with my best friend and at the end of the day she commented that I had been beating myself up all day and to stop. Hmm…I didn’t realize I was doing that. I guess I need to listen to my thoughts before I engage my voice! Everyone tells me that I am a wonderful Teacher. Seems like this Teacher needs to go back to school. How blessed am I to have God and YOU! as my instructors. Thank You! Thank YOU! And lots of love and light to you My Friend Sondra
Listen to my thoughts is harder than I anticipated. There are so many tapes that play so softly on the background that I hardly hear them. This is a great exercise!
I wonder how many of us have imbedded in us from an early age: “I’m not doing enough and I’m not doing it right.” I believe I absorbed this from my grandmother, through my mother. Definitely a thought to notice and let go of, a process I have worked on for many years! And what a waste of time trying to be “perfect!” If we are perfect in the mind and heart of the Great Spirit, then we have let our human mind forget that.
Happy 2016, Sondra! ?? I loved your True Love series and your interview with Sheldon. ? Thanks for the reminder that I can listen to my thoughts as a neutral observer. It’s sad how many painful thoughts we humans have on daily basis. Listening to one of my most painful thoughts – “I’m not safe”. I enjoyed your reconstruction tips and was able to apply them (all except the very last one which seems specifically customized for your example). I usually use Byron Katie’s method called “The Work” for questioning painful thoughts: very powerful stuff. ?
I love this little series!!! It is so helpful and I am certainly sharing with my friends. Thank you for bringing this forward. Thank you for being you!!! Happy New Year….New Thoughts……New Year……New (really just a more aware and aligned) You!!!
So much letting go! I wonder why whyit is so difficult to let go of things that make us feel bad. For me, I think it’s because I am prioritizing other people’s feelings and needs over my own. That’s a tough habit to let go of, isn’t it
Sondra, this makes so much sense to me. After facing death twice in the same year, I have been trying to do the exact same things but had no idea it was within me the entire time, had I only listened! Thank you so much.
What you listed above is so true. By observing our self talk and working at making it more positive we can change our lives. But what a challenge. Old patterns often die hard. But it’s like any muscle, the more we try the more we succeed. Thanks for making this list and reminding us. Think I’ll print it and paste it on my mirror.